Sample Ceremonies

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This is a beautiful ceremony I have seen this one many times in this same form and adapted versions I never knew it originated from the non- denominational  Swedenborg Church of San Francisco, (non-denominational)

The New Wedding Ceremony

[To the couple] Dear _____________ and  _____________, today you are surrounded by your friends and family, all of whom are gathered to witness your marriage and to share in the joy of this occasion.

Life takes on meaning as it becomes composed of many meaningful events, some of which can be specified and planned for. One of these events is marriage.

As you know, no minister, no priest, no rabbi, no public official can marry you. Only you can marry yourselves. By a mutual commitment to love each other, to work toward creating an atmosphere of care and consideration and respect, by a willingness to face the tensions and anxieties that underlie human life, you can make your wedded life come alive.

On this the day that begins your marriage, you stand somewhat apart from the rest of humanity. You stand within the charmed circle of your love.

Love is not meant to be and cannot be the possession of one person alone. True love serves as a source of common energy, as a fount from which you both draw sustenance to live your lives with creative courage. From this day onward you must come closer together than ever before; you must love one another in sickness and in health, for better and for worse. At the same time, let your love give you the strength to stand apart so that you may each seek out your unique destinies and make your special contributions to the world. The poet Rilke once said that marriage is not a matter of making a quick community of spirit by tearing down and destroying all boundaries. But rather a good marriage is that in which each appoints the other as a guardian of their solitude… Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people, infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.

Today, as you join yourselves in marriage, there is a vast and unknown future stretching out before you. The possibilities and potentials of your married life are great; and now falls upon your shoulders the task of choosing values and making real your dreams.

I should like at this time to try to speak of some of the things which many of us here wish for you. First of all, we wish for you a love that makes both of you better people, a love that continues to give you joy and zest for living, that provides you with energy to face the responsibilities of life.

We wish for you a home not just a place of stone and wood, but an island of sanity and serenity in a frenzied world. We hope that this home is not only a place of private joy and retreat, but also serves as a temple wherein the values of your life are generated and upheld.  We hope that your home will encompass the beauty of nature–that it will have within it the elements of simplicity, exuberance, silence, color, and a concordance with the rhythms of life. We wish for you a home with books and poetry,  music and spirituality — a home with all the things that represent the highest striving’s of men and women.

Optional:  If you choose to have children, we wish for you children who will not be mere reflections of yourselves but who will learn from you your best traits and who will go forth to re-create the values you shall have instilled in them. We hope you will pass on to your children the concept of family — not as an obligation, but as  a transcendent force which brings people close in times of joy and in times of need.

Finally, we wish that at the end of your lives you will be able to say these two things to each other: Because you have loved me, you have given me faith in myself. And because I have seen the good in you, I have received from you a faith in all humanity.

Declaration of Intention

_________________, in light of this vision of life together, do you wish to take ______________ as your wife, that you may live together in the holy bond of marriage?  (I do)

___________________, in light of this vision of life together, do you wish to take _______________as your husband, that you may live together in the holy bond of marriage?  (I do)

The Presentation (optional)

Who presents _______________ to be married to ______________?  Who presents _______________ to be married to ______________?)

Congregational Support (optional)

Will each one of you here today do all that is in your power to support and encourage ______________ and ______________ in fulfilling the promises they make here today –if so, please respond by saying, ‘We will.’

Exchange of Vows

The vows through which you will accept each other as husband and wife have no hidden power within them. Only to the extent that they express in words your continuing intention and commitment do they have meaning. And in a world where the pressures pushing people apart will sometimes feel stronger than those drawing people together, your commitment to one another will need to be creatively re-expressed in many different ways in the coming days and years.  The expression in today’s vows is an important and visible milestone in your journey together.

I, ___________________, take you, ________________, to be my wife from this time onward, to join with you and to share all that is to come, to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond, and in all of our life together to be loyal to you with all my being.

I, ___________________, take you, ________________, to be my husband from this time onward, to join with you and to share all that is to come, to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond, and in all of our life together to be loyal to you with all my being.

Exchange of Rings

Ring Blessing: Dear God, we ask you blessing upon these rings that they may be constant symbols for _____________and ____________ of unending love and devotion.

or

Ring Rubric: ____________________ and _________________, your rings,  being circles, are symbolic of eternity; and being made of precious metal, are symbolic of pure love, which has already united your hearts.

(Repeating) In giving you this ring, I join my life with yours, and pledge my everlasting love.

(or) With this ring, I thee wed; and pledge my faithful love.

Lighting of the Marriage Candle

(optional)

Wedding Prayer

O God, Creator and Sustainer of all life and love in heaven and on earth, we ask for your blessings upon this new marriage and upon the vows of marriage that ________ and _________ have taken here. Make this day and this passage fruitful to them through an added devotion, through a new inner strength, and through a new sense of the sacredness of life. We do not ask that they be kept from all sorrow and trial, but that they may learn from these and become stronger because of them. We do not ask that all life be easy and profitable to them, but that they find life good and worth celebrating. Make them always quick to forgive, quick to laugh, quick to enjoy. And especially, O God, grant them the grace to discover the tremendous delight and joy present in the small things. Amen.

Pronouncement

Forasmuch as you ____________ and you _____________ have consented together in marriage, and have pledged your love and your commitment each to the other in the presence of God and of this company, I do now pronounce you husband and wife.

Benediction
(From the Apache tribal tradition)
Now you will feel no rain,

For each of you will be shelter to the other.

Now you will feel no cold,

for each of you will be warmth to the other.

Now you will feel no loneliness,

for each of you will be companionship to the other.

Now you are two persons, but there is one life between you.

So go now to your dwelling place

to enter into the days of your life together.

And may your days be good and long upon the earth.


7/7/07

Ceremony shared with permission from the happy couple 🙂 I chose to remove their names. This wedding was a second marriage for both parties and it brought together the children and the child they had together

Friends and Family~~~~

We are gathered here together today to celebrate the wedding of _____ and _____. They have chosen today 7/7/07 how auspicious to unite on such a date in sacred matrimony.

Although- ____ and _______ may not have chosen to marry before this day they have been very committed and, very much in love for some time now. One aspect of their relationship I find inspiring is they were friends for sometime, as both ______ and ______ were supporting each other through challenging times in their own lives. Then basking in the light of their friendship something Magical happened: They fell in Love This is one of many reasons that truly make this day such an awe inspiring moment. It is – as if– All that has happened has prepared them for this very moment. Each taking the lessons from their individual lives, together as a couple— and even parenthood with it’s sleepless nights and skinned Knees, it’s joys and challenges. Yet, today —-They are CHOOSING— to take one more step in their deep love and commitment for one another… We all live in the hope of finding Love and of being loved, any sign of Love is Truly and inspiration. Therefore, Let us all be delighted, encouraged and inspired today for _____ and _____ and WITH THEM.

Invocation

Today is a day many spiritual people have gathered and are praying for peace and joy and Harmony for all people right at this very moment as it is 7/7/07.

Dear Heavenly Father, Mother God , We now ask for your presence, with us. We ask for your Blessings on ____, _____, ____, _____, _____ and of course Little _____. Send your Angels of Divine Light and Harmony Shine your light on this moment to this family Unite this Couple and this family in your Love, allow Love to continue to grow and expand. Help them accept all the blessings that you may have in store for them. AH MEN

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Poem By Roy Croft

I Love you,
Not only for what you are but for what I am when I am with you.

I Love you, not only for what you have made of yourself but for what you are making of me.
I love you, for the part of me that you bring out.
I love you, for putting your hand into my heaped-up hear and, passing over all the foolish, weak things you can’t help-dimly seeing there and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful belongings that no one else had looked quite far enough to find.
I love, you because you are helping me to make of the lumber of my life- not a tavern but a temple. Out of the works of my everyday not reproach but a song.

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Marriage is a sacred place and a sheltered environment. It is Divinely designed that you will become more than what you are now together in Love. Understand that Married life may not always be Sunny. Sometimes it is Cloudy and down right hard work. Some say that marriage is a 50/50 situation. I am informing you that is not always the case. There may come a time that you will need to put in 100 Percent. Understanding this, always keep in your hearts and minds that what ever you put in your marriage you will receive back the most beautiful blessings.

As Paul spoke in Corinthians: Love is Patient, Love is Kind, and, does not keep a record of wrong doings…. If you find your selves loosing your patients, or “Keeping a Record” of wrong doings. Perhaps becoming irritable with one another– Remember this day and understand that, that is not the behavior of Love. That behavior is quite simply: Fear. So, seek then Understanding… Choose to return to Love ask, how would Love respond? Perhaps, Give to your partner more understanding than you think you yourself should receive. Allow your partner more patience than you would expect from even yourself. Ask your selves how would Love respond and commit to doing just that: What Love would do.

Having heard of the joys and potential trials of marriage

Vows: (Spoken While Holding Right hands)
Do you ____ and ____— promise, before family and friends to commit your love; to respect each others individuality; to be with one another through life’s changes; and to nurture and strengthen the love between you two and our Family as long as you both shall live”. ?

Ring Ceremony
REV (HOLDING THE RIGHTS) May Gods light and blessings, shine down upon these rings, RINGS are a symbol of Love, Perfection, peace, unbroken, Harmony and endless friendship. These two rings are the symbol of the unity in which your two lives have been joined together

Groom— “ Do you _____ Take _____ just as she is, above all others, to share in your life?

Bride—“Do you _____ Take ______ just as he is, above all others, to share in your life?
(The crowed blows bubbles— and the flower girls throw rose petals)
We give thanks for the presence of Divine during this Ceremony
Sheila and Marco if there is one thing I wish for you to remember from this ceremony is that is love that brought you here today and is by love and acts of love that your marriage shall not only endure but create joy in your lives and your children’s lives.

YOU MAY NOW SEAL YOUR VOWS with a Kiss

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Friends and Family you many now congratulate the Happy Couple